Teachings and Laws Regarding Relations as a Muslim


Welcome Reader, these are few selected Hadith(s) from Al Adab al Mufrad of Bukhari Shareef’s Writer. Hadith is the sayings of Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings be upon him) His actions are called Sunnah. And at all hadith is a part of Sunnah (Sunnah means practice,action, practical). Kindly do read these rules, This is the Teaching of Shariya and then from your heart judge it, that is this the same Shariya which western media shows to you?.Do you have any other religion on this face of the earth which has so so much guidance in all aspects of life as a Muslim or even as a Human being . This article is not only for Muslims, But for all those who has a faith or even who want to know how does a Muslim Social Life works. Plz do spent sometime. This is Shariya and its laws which are applicable on all Muslims and alhamdolillah most of the Muslims and families follow these rules in their daily life. Having iphone or tablet is not a life, Life is the time and relations and our attitude towards those which are dearer to us is the important thing. For those who want to know how muslim’s social life spent, they must have to read this with open mind and heart. This is the reason why we as a Muslims Love our Prophet and we have no permission to disrespect anyone’s faith. These are our teachings, measure it by yourself. Also this article is for those brothers and sisters who accepted the truth of Islam and yet their parents or kinships are not Muslims so how to deal with those relations is an important question. Which is very briefly answered in this article. And these are the real te

1. Honouring Parents:  The Words of Allah Almighty: “We have instructed man to honour his parents.” (29:8) 

1. Abu ‘Amr ash-Shaybani said, “The owner of this house (and he pointed at the house of ‘Abdullah
ibn Mas’ud) said, “I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, which action Allah
loves best. He replied, ‘Prayer at its proper time.’ ‘Then what?’ I asked. He said, ‘Then kindness to
parents.” I asked, ‘Then what?’ He replied, ‘Then jihad in the Way of Allah.'” He added, “He told me
about these things. If I had asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more.”

2. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent.” 

2. Dutifulness to One’s Mother 

3. Bahz ibn Hakim’s grandfather said, “I asked, ‘Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?’
‘Your mother,’ he replied. I asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. I asked, ‘Then whom?’
‘Your mother,’ he replied. I asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. I asked, ‘Then to whom
should I be dutiful?’ ‘Your father,’ he replied, ‘and then the next closest relative and then the next.'”

4. ‘Ata’ ibn Yasar said that a man came to Ibn ‘Abbas and said, “I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent?” He asked, “Is your mother alive?” “No,” he replied. He said, “repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can.”
‘Ata’ said, “I went to Ibn ‘Abbas and asked him, ‘Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive?’ He replied, ‘I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allah than dutifulness to his mother.'”

3. Dutifulness to One’s Father

5. Abu Hurayra said, “The Prophet was asked, ‘Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?’
‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ He replied, ‘Your father.'”

6. Abu Hurayra reported: “A man came to the Prophet of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, and asked, ‘What do you command me to do?’ He replied, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’
Then he asked him the same question again and he replied, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’ He
repeated it yet again and the Prophet replied, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’ He repeated the
question a fourth time and the reply was, ‘Be dutiful towards your mother.’ Then he put the question a fifth time and the Prophet said, ‘Be dutiful towards your father.'”

4. Dutifulness to Parents, even if they are unjust 

7. Ibn ‘Abbas said, “If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the
Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him.” He was asked, “Even if they wrong him?” “Even if they wrong him” he replied.

5. Gentle words to Parents

8. Taysala ibn Mayyas said, “I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when I committed wrong actions
which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentioned that to Ibn ‘Umar. He inquired, ‘What are
they?” I replied, ‘Such-and-such.’ He stated, ‘These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrong actions. They are: associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertion from the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consuming an orphan’s property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing one’s parents to weep through disobedience.’ Ibn ‘Umar then said to me, ‘Do you wish to separate yourself from the Fire? Do you want to enter the Fire?’ ‘By Allah, yes!’ I replied. He asked, ‘Are your parents still alive?’ I replied, ‘My mother is.’ He said, ‘By Allah, if you speak gently to her and feed her, then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.'”

9. Hisham ibn ‘Urwa related this ayat from his father, “Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility.” (17:24) 

6. Repaying Parents

10. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “A child
cannot repay his father unless he finds him as a slave and the buys him and sets him free.”

11. Sa’id ibn Abi Burda said, “I heard my father sat that Ibn ‘Umar saw a Yamani man going around
the House while carrying his mother on his back, saying, ‘I am your humble camel. If her mount is
frightened, I am not frightened.’ Then he asked, ‘Ibn ‘Umar? Do you think that I have repaid her?’ He replied, ‘No, not even for a single groan.’ “Ibn ‘Umar did tawaf and came to the Maqam and prayed two rak’ats. He said, ‘Ibn Abi Musa, every two rak’ats make up for everything that has happened between them.'”

12. Marwan used to make Abu Hurayra his agent and he used to be located in Dhu’l-Hulayfa. His
mother was in one house and he was in another. When he wanted to go out, he would stop at her door and say, “Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing.” She would reply, “And peace be upon you, my son, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing.” Then he said, “May Allah have mercy on you as you raised me when I was a child.” She answered, “May Allah have mercy on you as you were dutiful to me when I was old.” Whenever he wanted to go inside, he would do something similar.

13. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
and made a pledge to him that he would do hijra. He left his parents who were in tears. The Prophet
said, ‘Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them weep.'”

14. Abu Hazim reported that Abu Murra, the mawla of Umm Hani’ bint Abi Talib had told him that he rode with Abu Hurayra to his land in al-‘Aqiq. When he entered his land, he shouted out in his loudest voice, “Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing!” She replied, “And peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessing.” He said, “May Allah have mercy on you as you raised me when I was a child.” She replied, “My son, may Allah repay you well and be pleased with you as you were dutiful towards me when I was old.”

7. Disobedience to Parents

15. Abu Bakra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
“Shall I tell you which is the worst of the major wrong actions?” “Yes, Messenger of Allah,” they
replied. He said, “Associating something else with Allah and disobeying parents.” he had been
reclining, but then he said up and said, “And false witness.” Abu Bakr said, “He continued to repeat it until I said, ‘Is he never going to stop?'”

16. Warrad, the scribe of al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba, said, “Mu’awiya wrote to al-Mughira, saying, ‘Write down for me what you heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say.'” Warrad said, “He dictated to me and I wrote out, ‘I heard him forbid asking too many questions, wasting money and chit-chat.'” 

8. “Allah curses whoever curses his parents” 

17. Abu’t-Tufayl said, “‘Ali was asked, ‘Did the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, give you something special which he did not give to anyone else?’ He replied, ‘The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, did not give me anything special which he did not give to everyone else except for what I have in my sword scabbard.’ He brought out a piece of paper. Written on that paper was: ‘Allah curses anyone who sacrifices an animal to something other than Allah. Allah curses anyone who steals a milestone. Allah curses anyone who curses his parents. Allah curses anyone who gives shelter to an innovator.'” 

9. Being Dutiful to Parents as long as that does not entail disobedience to Allah

18. Abu’d-Darda’ said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
recommended nine things to me: ‘Do not associate anything with Allah, even if you are cut to pieces
or burned. Do not abandon a prescribed prayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit
Allah’s protection. Do not drink wine – it is the key to every evil. Obey your parents. If they command you to abandon your worldly possessions, then leave them for them. Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in the right. Do not run away from the army when it is advances, even if you are killed while your companions run away. Spend on your wife out of your means. Do not raise a stick against your wife. Cause your family to fear Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.'”

19. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
and said, ‘I have come to make you a pledge that will do hijra although I have left my parents in tears.” The Prophet said, ‘Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.'”

20. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, ‘Are your parents alive?’ ‘Yes,’ he replied. he said, ‘Then exert yourself on their behalf.'”

10. The One who Fails his Parents will not enter the Garden

21. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Disgrace! Disgrace! Disgrace!” They said, “Messenger of Allah, who?” He said, “The one who fails his parents or one of them when they are old will enter the Fire.”

11. Allah prolongs the life of someone who is dutiful towards his parents

22. Mu’adh said, “Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allah Almighty will
prolong his life.”

12. One does not ask forgiveness for his father if he is an idolater

23. Ibn ‘Abbas mentioned the words of the Almighty, “When one or both of them reach old age with
you, do not say ‘Ugh!’ to them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity. Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say: ‘Lord, show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small.” (17:23-24) He said, “This was abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: ‘It is not right for the Prophet and those who have iman to ask forgiveness for the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear to them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire.’ (9:113)”

13. Dutifulness towards a parent who is an idolater

24. Sa’id ibn Abi Waqqas said: “Four ayats were revealed about me. The first was when my mother
swore she would neither eat nor drink until I left Muhammad, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace. Allah Almighty revealed, ‘But if they try to make you associate something with Me about
which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. Keep company with them correctly and courteously in this worldÉ’ (31:15) The second was when I took a sword that I admired and said, ‘Messenger of Allah, give me this!’ Then the ayat was revealed: ‘They will ask you about booty.’ (8:1) The third was when I was ill and the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came to me and I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, I want to divide my property. Can I will away a half?’ He said, ‘No.’ ‘A third?’ I asked. He was silent and so after that it was allowed to will away a third. The fourth was when I had been drinking wine with some of the Ansar. One of them hit my nose with the jawbone of a camel. I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and Allah Almighty revealed the prohibition of wine.”

25. Asma’ bint Abi Bakr said, “In the time of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
my mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful). I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and
grant him peace, ‘Do I have to treat her well?’ ‘Yes,’ he replied.” Ibn ‘Uyayna said, “Then Allah revealed about her, ‘Allah does not forbid you from being good to those who have not fought you in the deen.’ (60:8)”

26. Ibn ‘Umar said, “‘Umar saw a silk robe for sale. He said, ‘Messenger of Allah, would you buy this
robe and wear it on Jumu’a and when delegations visit you?’ He replied, ‘Only a person who has no
portion in the Next World could wear this.’ Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and
grant him peace, was given some robes made of the same material. He sent one of the robes to ‘Umar. ‘Umar exclaimed, ‘How can I wear it when you said what you said about it?’ The Prophet replied, ‘I did not give it to you so that you could wear it. You can sell it or give it to someone.’ ‘Umar sent it to a brother of his in Makka who had not yet become Muslim.”

14. A person should not revile his parents 

27. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
“Reviling one’s parents is one of the great wrong actions.” They asked, “How could he revile them?”
He said, “He reviles a man who then in turn reviles his mother and father.”

28. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man’s reviling his father is one of the major wrong actions in the sight
of Allah Almighty.”

15. The punishment for disobeying parents

29. Abu Bakra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “There is no wrong action more likely to bring punishment in this world in addition to what is stored up in the Next World than oppression and severing ties of kinship.”

30. ‘Imran ibn Husayn said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘What do you say about fornication, drinking wine and theft?’ ‘Allah and His Messenger know best,’ we replied. He stated, ‘They are acts of outrage and there is punishment for them, but shall I tell you which is the greatest of the great wrong actions? Associating with Allah Almighty and disobeying parents.’ He had been reclining, but then he sat up and said, ‘and lying.'”

16. Making Parents weep

31. Ibn ‘Umar said, “Making parents weep is part of disobedience and one of the major wrong actions.”

17. The Supplication of Parents

32. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Three
supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the
supplication of someone on a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children.”
33. Abu Hurayra reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, say, “No human child has ever spoken in the cradle except for ‘Isa ibn Maryam, may Allah
bless him and grant him peace, and the companion of Jurayj.” Abu Hurayra asked, “Prophet of Allah, who was the companion of Jurayj?” The Prophet replied, “Jurayj was a monk who lived in a
hermitage. There was a cowherd who used to come to the foot of his hermitage and a woman from the village used to come to the cowherd.
“One day his mother came while he was praying and called out, ‘Jurayj!’ He asked himself, ‘My
mother or my prayer?’ He concluded that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted to him a second
time and he again asked himself, ‘My mother or my prayer?’ He thought that he should prefer the
prayer. She shouted a third time and yet again he asked himself, ‘My mother or my prayer?’ He again concluded that he should prefer the prayer. When he did not answer her, she said, ‘Jurayj, may Allah not let you die until you have looked at the faces of the beautiful women.’ Then she left.
“Then the village woman was brought before the king after she had given birth to a child. He asked,
‘Whose is it?’ ‘Jurayj’s,’ she replied. He asked, ‘The man in the hermitage?’ ‘Yes,’ she answered. He
ordered, ‘Destroy his hermitage and bring him to me.’ They hacked at his hermitage with axes until it collapsed. They bound his hand to his neck with a rope and took him along to the king. When he
passed by the beautiful women, he saw them and smiled. They were looking at him along with the
people.
“The king asked, ‘Do you know what this woman claims?’ ‘What does she claim?’ he asked. He
replied, ‘She claims that you are the father of her child.’ He asked her, ‘Where is the child?’ They
replied, ‘It is in her room.’ He went to the child and said, ‘Who is your father?’ ‘The cowherd,’ he
replied. The king said, ‘Shall we build your hermitage out of gold?’ ‘No,’ he replied. He asked, ‘Of
silver?’ ‘No,’ he replied. The king asked, ‘What shall we build it with?’ He said, ‘Put it back the way
you found it.’ Then the king asked, ‘What made you smile.’ ‘Something I recognised,’ he replied, ‘The
supplication of my mother overtook me.’ Then he told him about it.”

18. Offering Islam to a Christian mother

34. Abu Hurayra said, “Neither Jew nor Christian has heard me and then not loved me. I wanted my mother to become Muslim, but she refused. I told her about it and she still refused. I went to the
Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, ‘Pray to Allah for me.’ He did so and I
went to her. She was inside the door of the house and said, ‘Abu Hurayra, I have become Muslim.’ I
told the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and I asked, ‘Make supplication to Allah
for me and my mother.’ He said, ‘O Allah, make people love Abu Hurayra and his mother.'”

19. Dutifulness towards Parents after their Death

35. Abu Usayd said, “We were with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, when a man asked, ‘Messenger of Allah, is there any act of dutifulness which I can do for my
parents after their death?’ He replied, ‘Yes. There are four things: Supplication for them, asking
forgiveness for them, fulfilling their pledges, and being generous to friends of theirs. You only have
ties of kinship through your parents.”

36. Abu Hurayra said, “The dead person can be raised a degree after his death. He said, ‘My Lord, how is this?’ He was told, ‘Your child can ask for forgiveness for you.'”

37. Ibn Sirin said, “We were with Abu Hurayra one night and he said, ‘O Allah, forgive Abu Hurayra
and his mother and whoever asks for forgiveness for both of them.'” Muhammad said, “We used to ask for forgiveness for them so that we would be included in Abu Hurayra’s supplication.”

38. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “When a person dies, all action is cut off for him with the exception of three things: sadaqa which continues, knowledge which benefits, or a righteous child who makes supplication for him.”

39. Ibn ‘Abbas reported that a man said, “Messenger of Allah, my mother died without a will. Will it
help her if I give sadaqa on her behalf?” “Yes,” he replied.

20. The Dutifulness of someone who maintains what his father loved

40. ‘Abdullah ibn Dinar reported that Ibn ‘Umar passed by a bedouin during a journey. The bedouin’s father had been a friend of ‘Umar’s. The bedouin said, “Am I not the son of so-and-so?” He said, “Yes, indeed.” Ibn ‘Umar ordered that he be given a donkey which was following him. He also took off his turban and gave it to him, One of the men with him said, “Wouldn’t two dirhams be enough for him?”
He replied, “The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Maintain what your father loved. Do not cut it off so that Allah puts out your light.”

41. Ibn ‘Umar reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
“The strongest form of dutifulness is when a man maintains relations with the people his father loved.”

21. Do not cut off someone with whom your father maintained ties

42. Sa’d ibn ‘Ubada az-Zurqi reported that his father said, “I was sitting in the mosque in Madina with ‘Amr ibn ‘Uthman when ‘Abdullah ibn Salam walked by, leaning on his nephew. ‘Amr left the
assembly and showed his concern for him.” Then Ibn Salam returned to them and said, “Do what you like, ‘Amr ibn ‘Uthman,” (and he said it two or three times) By the One who sent Muhammad, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, with the Truth, it is in the Book of Allah Almighty (and he said it twice), ‘Do not cut off those your father has joined so that that extinguishes your light.'”

22. Love is inherited

43. Abu Bakr ibn Hazm reported that one of the Companions of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “It is enough that I tell you that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘Love is inherited.'”

23. A man should not call his father by his name nor sit down before him nor walk in front of him

44. Abu Hurayra saw two men and said to one of them, “Who is this man in relation to you?” He is
my father,” he replied. He said, “Do not call him by his own name nor walk in front of him nor sit
down before him.”

24. Can a man call his father by his kunya(nickname)?

45. Shahr ibn Hawshab said, “We went out with Ibn ‘Umar and Salim said to him, ‘Peace, Abu
‘Abdu’r-Rahman.'”

46. ‘Abdullah ibn Dinar said reported that Ibn ‘Umar said, “But Abu Hafs ‘Umar decided…”

II. Ties of Kinship

25. The Duty of maintaining ties of kinship

47. Kulayb ibn Manfa’a reported that his grandfather asked, “Messenger of Allah, towards whom
should I be dutiful?” He replied, “Your mother, your father, your sister and your brother. Then your
mawla (client) has the next right against you and then your relatives who are connected.”
48. Abu Hurayra said, “When the following ayat was revealed (‘Warn your near relatives’ (26:214)),
the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, stood up and called out, saying, ‘Banu Ka’b ibn Lu’ayy! Save yourselves from the Fire! Banu ‘Abdu Manaf! Save yourselves from the Fire! Banu
Hashim! Save yourselves from the Fire! Banu ‘Abdu’l-Muttalib! Save yourselves from the Fire!
Fatima, daughter of Muhammad! Save yourselves from the Fire! I do not have anything for you in
respect to Allah except for the fact that you have ties of kinship.'”

26. Maintaining ties of kinship

49. Abu Ayyub al-Ansari told him that a bedouin came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, while he was travelling. He asked, “Tell me what will bring me near to the Garden and keep me far from the Fire.” He replied, “Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him,
perform the prayer, pay zakat, and maintain ties of kinship.”

50. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Allah Almighty created creation. When He had finished it, ties of kinship rose up. Allah said, ‘Stop!’ They said, ‘This is the place for anyone seeking refuge with You from being cut off’ Allah said, ‘Are you not content that I should maintain connections with the one who maintains connection with you and I should cut off the one who cuts you off?’ It replied, ‘Yes indeed, my Lord.’ He said, ‘You have that.'” Then Abu Hurayra said, “If you wish, you can recite, ‘Is it not likely that, if you did turn away, you would cause corruption in the earth and sever your ties of kinship?’ (47:22)”

51. Ibn ‘Abbas spoke about the ayat, “Give your relatives their due, and the very poor and
travellers” (17:26), and said, “He begins by commanding the most pressing of the obligatory dues
and He directs us to the best action if we have any money. He says: ‘Give your relatives their due, and the very poor and travellers.’ He also teaches us what we can say if we have nothing. He says, ‘But if you do turn away from them, seeking the mercy you hope for from your Lord, then speak to them with words that bring them ease’ (17:28) in the form of an excellent promise. Things are as they are, but they might change if Allah wills. ‘Do not keep your hand chained to your neck’ and not give anything, ‘but do not extend it either to its full extent’ and give all you have, ‘so that you sit there blamed’ as those who come to you later and find you have nothing will blame you, ‘and destitute.’ (17:29)” He said, “The person to whom you have given everything has made you destitute.”

27. The excellence of maintaining ties of kinship

52. Abu Hurayra said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and
said, ‘Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties while they cut me off. I am good to them while they are bad to me. They behave foolishly towards me while I am forbearing towards them.’ The Prophet said, ‘If things are as you said, it is as if you were putting hot ashes on them and you will not lack a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do that.'”

53. ‘Abdu’r-Rahman ibn ‘Awf heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, say, “Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, said, ‘I am the Merciful (ar-Rahman). I have created ties of kinship and derives a name for it from My Name. If anyone maintains ties of kinship, I maintain connection with him, and I shall cut off anyone who cuts them off.'”

54. Abu’l-‘Anbas said, “I visited ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr at al-Waht (some land of his in Ta’if). He said,
‘The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, pointed his finger towards us and said,
“Kinship (rahim) us derived from the All-Merciful (Rahman). When someone maintains the
connections of ties of kinship, they maintain connection with him. If someone cuts them off, they cut
him off. They will have an unfettered, eloquent tongue on the Day of Rising.”‘”

55. ‘A’isha reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Kinship (rahim) is derived from Allah. If anyone maintains ties of kinship Allah maintains ties with him. If anyone cuts them off, Allah cuts him off.”

28. Maintaining ties of kinship will prolong life

56. Anas ibn Malik reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,
said, “Anyone who wants to have his provision expanded and his term of life prolonged should
maintain ties of kinship.”

57. Abu Hurayra heard that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say,
“Anyone who wants to have his provision expanded and his term of life lengthened should maintain
ties of kinship.”

29. Allah loves the one who maintains ties of kinship

58. Ibn ‘Umar said, “If someone fears his Lord and maintains ties of kinship, his term of life will be
prolonged, he will have abundant wealth and his people will love him.”

59. Ibn ‘Umar said, “If someone his Lord and maintains ties of kinship, his term of life will be
prolonged, his wealth will be abundant and his family will love him.”

30. Being dutiful to the closest relative and then the next closest

60. It is reported that al-Miqdam ibn Ma’dikarib heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him
and grant him peace, say, “Allah enjoins you to be dutiful to your mothers. Then He enjoins you to be dutiful to your mothers. Then He enjoins you to be dutiful to your fathers. Then He enjoins you to be dutiful to your next closest relative and then to your next closest relative.”

61. Abu Ayyub Sulayman, the mawla of ‘Uthman ibn ‘Affan, said, “Abu Hurayra came to us on a
Thursday evening, the night before Jumu’a. He said, ‘Every individual who severs ties of kinship is
constricted when he leaves us. No one left until he had said that three times. Then a young man went to one of his paternal aunts with whom he had severed ties two years previously. He went to her and she asked him, ‘Nephew! What has brought you?’ He replied, ‘I heard Abu Hurayra say such-and-such.’ She said, ‘Go back to him and ask him why he said that.’ Abu Hurayra said, ‘I heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, “The actions of the children of Adam are presented before Allah Almighty on Thursday evening, the night before Jumu’a. He does not accept the actions of someone who has severed ties of kinship.”‘”

62. Ibn ‘Umar said, “Nothing that a man spends on himself and his family, anticipating a reward from Allah, will fail to be rewarded by Allah Almighty. He should begin with those whose support is his responsibility. If there is something left over, he should spend it on his next nearest relative and then the next nearest. If there is still something left over, he can give it away.”

31. Mercy will not descend on people when there is someone among them who severs ties of kinship

63. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Awfa reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
“Mercy does not descend on a people when there is someone among them who severs ties of kinship.”

32. The wrong action of someone who severs ties of kinship

64. Jubayr ibn Mu’tim reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, “The one who severs ties of kinship will not enter the Garden.”

65. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Ties of kinship (rahim) is derived from the All-Merciful (ar-Rahman). They say. ‘My Lord! I have been wronged! My Lord! I have been cut off! My Lord! I haveÉ! I have!’ Allah answers them, ‘Are you not content that I cut off the one who cuts you off and I maintain connections with the one who maintains connections with you?'”

66. Sa’id ibn Sam’an heard Abu Hurayra seeking refuge from the power of children and fools. Sa’id
said, “Ibn Hasana al-Juhani told me that he asked Abu Hurayra, ‘What is the token of that?’ He
replied, ‘That he severs ties of kinship, obeys someone who is in error, and disobeys the correct
guide.'”

33. The punishment of someone who cuts off ties of kinship in this world

67. Abu Bakra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,
“There is no wrong action which Allah is swifter to punish in this world – in addition to the
punishment which He has stored up for the wrongdoer in the Next World – than cutting off ties of
kinship and injustice.”

34. The one who maintains ties of kinship is not the one who reciprocates

68. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “The one who maintains ties of kinship is not the one who reciprocates. The one who maintains ties of kinship is the one who, when his relatives cut him off, maintains ties of kinship.”

35. The excellence of someone who maintains relations with relatives who are unjust

69. Al-Bara’ said, “A bedouin came and said, ‘Prophet of Allah! Teach me an action which will enable
me to enter the Garden.’ He said, “The question is a broad one, even though you have asked it in only a few words. Free someone. Set a slave free.’ He said, ‘Are they not the same thing?’ ‘No,’ he replied, ‘Freeing someone is setting someone free yourself. Setting a slave free is to contribute to the price of setting him free. Lend an animal for milking which has a lot of milk and treat your relatives kindly. If you cannot do that, then command the good and forbid the bad. If you cannot do that, then restrain your tongue from everything except what is good.”

36. Those who maintained ties of kinship in the Jahiliyya and then became Muslim

70. Hakim ibn Hizam said to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, “Do you think
that the acts of worship which I used to do in the time of the Jahiliyya – maintaining relations with
relatives, setting slaves free and sadaqa – will bring me a reward?” Hakim said that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “When you become Muslim, you keep the good actions you have already done.”

37. Maintaining ties of kinship with the idolater and giving gifts

71. Ibn ‘Umar said, “‘Umar saw a silk robe for sale. He said, ‘Messenger of Allah, would you buy this
robe and wear it on Jumu’a and when delegations visit you?’ He replied, ‘Only a person who has no
portion in the Next World could wear this.’ Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and
grant him peace, was given some robes made of the same material. He sent one of the robes to ‘Umar. ‘Umar exclaimed, ‘How can I wear it when you said what you said about it?’ The Prophet replied, ‘I did not give it to you so that you could wear it. You can sell it or give it to someone.’ ‘Umar sent it to one of his half-brothers by his mother who was still an idolater.” (see 26)

38. Learn your lineages so that you can maintain ties of kinship

72. Jubayr ibn Mut’im said that he heard ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab say on the minbar, “Learn your
lineages so that you can maintain ties of kinship. By Allah, if there are some bad feelings between a
man and his brother and he knows that there is kinship between him and that man, that will prevent him from breaking with him.”

73. Ibn ‘Abbas said, “Keep a record of your lines of descent so that you can maintain ties of kinship. He will not make his relatives distant when they are close relatives, even if they live far away. He will not consider them to be close relatives if they are distant ones, even if they live near to him. Every time of kinship will come on the Day of Rising in front of each individual and testify on his behalf that he has maintained that tie of kinship if he did indeed maintain it. It will testify against him that he cut if off if he cut it off.” 

(Dear Reader ! Whatever religion you are following or even if you are not following any religion still, you already read about the Muslim Family Systems, These (ahadiths) (sayings of the Holy Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him) are the gems for building up society. A society which can have respect for the youngsters and love for elders. This is the base of Islamic Shariya, and these are the teachings of Shariya. Just with sole mind and neutral thinking from your heart and mind is it bad thing? These teachings to how to treat in different relations and help for human which is studied and practiced by Muslims all over the globe is called Shariya. I do not know which kind of concept does the western media put up in a western mind. But i Do KNOW that what are my responsibilities towards my lineage and relations. I do know that what are my duties towards certain acts of life (the real life) and as a Muslim i am bound to these terms and rules. Think from your heart that which other religion teaches you these with a practical demonstration from more than 1700 years. I bet you will not find a single religion on the earth which can show you and gave you ways so much expressly in your daily life. Islam is the only real path of the Prophets and Sages. And these are the teachings of Our Beloved Prophet (MUHAMMAD peace and blessings be upon him) and this is why WE MUSLIMS are very very sensitive towards the respect and honor of all of the Prophets, like Moses, Jesus, Aaron,Abraham,Isacc,Ishmael etc etc. We respect all and we respect our Beloved Prophet who show and guide us how to deal with our lives in this materialistic world and how to make our self arranged with the hereafter. These teachings were practiced by our beloved Prophet and that is the reason that disrespect of OUR BELOVED PROPHET is the worst thing which we do not accept in any case). 

May AlMIGHTY Allah gave us hidaya (the guidance) in our daily life and in our actions, and save us from the wrong ways of satan. Amin. Thankyou for Reading This.

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