Imam Al -Ghazali [رحمة الله علیہ] on Education


AN EXTRACT BY HUJJAT’UL IMAM AL GHAZALI [رحمة الله آلائه] Rehmatullah Alaih – ON EDUCATION12926_427969137251146_843981033_n

An Exposition of the way Young Children Should be Diciplined – and the Manner of their Upbringing and Improvements of their Character.

[The Bayan 10 of the Book 22 of Imam Al-Ghazali’s Greatest Work:

The Revival of the Religious Sciences (Ihya Ulum al-Din) – The whole Ihya is a didactic work – a vast sermon on the worthlessness of this world and the necessity of deepening the externals of religion by means of Sufism – But while many sections of the Ihya are given over to examining the training (Tarbiya) of mystical aspirants – ONLY One Substantial Passage Treats of the Upbringing of Children.]

Know that the way in which young children are disciplined is one of the most important of all matters. A Child is a Trust in the care of his parents – for his Pure Heart is a Precious Uncut Jewel devoid of any form or carving – which will accept being cut into any shape -and will be disposed according to the Guidance it Receives from other – If it is Habituated to and instructed in Goodness then this will be its practice when it grows up – and it will Attain to Felicity in this World and the Next- its Parents too – and all its teachers and preceptors – will share in its Reward.

Similarly – should it be Habituated to evil and neglected as though it were an animal -then misery and perdition will be its lot – and the responsibility for this will be borne by its guardian and supervisor.

For ALLAH (Exalted is He) has said: “Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire”

A Father may strive to Protect his Son from Fire in this World – Yet he may Not Reflect upon as deeply to safeguard his son from the Fires which Exist in the After Life – This he should do by Giving him Discipline- Teaching him and Refining his Character- by Preserving him from Bad Company- and by Not Suffering him to acquire the custom of self‑indulgence- or to love finery and luxury- in the quest for which he might well squander his life when older and thus perish forever -Rather Should he Watch over him Diligently from his Earliest Days – and Permit None but a Woman of Virtue and Religion to Nurse and Raise him.

Her (the Mother’s) Diet should be of Permitted things: for there is no Blessing (Baraka) in Milk which Originates in Forbidden Food- Which a Child be Nourished upon – Will knead his Native Disposition in such a way as to Incline his Temperament Not to indulge wrongdoing.

*(So as we can see here that the First Step in bringing up Pious and Obedient Children depends on the Milk (Breastfed) stemming from Halal Earned Foods)*

When the Signs of Discretion appear in him he should again be Watched Over Carefully. The first of these is the Rudiments of Shame – for when he Begins to Feel Diffident and is ashamed of certain things so that he Abandons them – the Light of the Intellect has Dawned in him – whereby he sees that certain things are ugly (Prohibited) – and Different from others – and Begins to be Ashamed of some things and not others.

This is a Gift to him from ALLAH (Exalted is HE) and a Good Foretoken that his Traits will be Balanced – his Heart Pure – and his Intellect Sound when he Enters upon Adulthood.

The Child who has Developed the Capacity for shame should Never be Neglected – rather this and his discretion should be used as Aids in his Education.

On Eating Habits:

The First Trait to Take Control of him will be Greed for Food – he is to be Disciplined in this Regard – so that – for instance – he picks up food Only with his Right Hand and says “In the Name of ALLAH” ( Bismillah) when raising it – eats from that which is nearest to his and does Not Start Eating before others – He should Not Stare at his food or at the other people present- neither should he bolt it -but should chew it properly instead -He should not eat one mouthful after another without pause – he should not get food on his hand or his clothes – and he should acquire the habit of sometimes eating nothing but bread so that he does not think that the presence of other kinds of food is inevitable.

He should be made to dislike eating large quantities by being told that this is the practice of animals- and by seeing other children reproached for overeating or praised for being well‑mannered and moderate. He should be made to enjoy giving the best food to others – sharing and encouraged to pay little heed to what he eats and to be contented with its coarser varieties.

On Attire:

He should be encouraged to like white rather than colored or silk garments, -and made firmly to believe that these latter are proper to women and to effeminate men – and that (True) men disdain them. This should be repeatedly emphasized to him so that he dislikes and criticizes the wearing by any child he sees of silken or colored clothes.

He should be protected from children who are accustomed to luxury and comfort -and develop an aversion to wearing expensive garments – and from mixing with all who would speak to him of such things and thereby make them seem fine in his eyes.

*(This happens ever so often in societies at large)*

For the Child who is Neglected in the Early Years of his Growth will usually grow up to be Ill ‑Natured – Dishonest – Envious – Obstinate – Inclined to Theft- Backbiting – and Excessive Chatter and Excessive Laughter – Slyness and Immorality – from all of which things he can be Protected Through a Sound Upbringing.

*(This is not to say, the Children who lost their Fathers and Mothers to an early death or separated from them at a very young age when Fathers often have to work to earn a livelihood abroad – or via parents being Divorced which often leaves the Chld/Children in the care of One parent or a Guardian/s – who would and should NOT resort to emotional blackmail /verbal and physical assault/abuse which would stun the emotional growth of the Child)*

On Early Education:

Next he should be busy at school learning the Quran – the Traditions, and Tales of Devout Men of ALLAH so that Love for the rRghteous takes Root in his Heart. He should be Preserved From those varieties of poetry which treat of lovers and passion – and from the company of such men of letters as claim that these things are part of an elegant and sophisticated nature – for this Would Implant the Seeds of Corruption in his Heart.

Whenever a good trait or action manifests itself in the child he should be admired and rewarded with something which gives him joy – and should be praised in front of others -likewise – when once in a while he does something bad it is best to pretend not to notice and not to bring it to the attention of others (but never to reveal to him that it is something which others might be bold enough to do)- particularly if the child himself has diligently endeavored to hide his action -for the exposure of such deeds may cause him to grow emboldened – until he no longer cares when they are made public.

Should he repeat the action-he should be privately reprimanded and reproached and made to feel that it was a very serious mistake and be told – “Beware of doing anything like this again or Almighty ALLAH will NOT be pleased with him”

He should not be spoken to and remided of his shortcomings at length, every time – for this would accustom him to being blamed for his misdeeds – and destroy the effectiveness such words have upon his heart.

A Father should rather preserve the awe in which the child holds his speech by reprimanding him occasionaly – similarly the Mother -when reproving him – should frighten him by (threatening to mention the matter to) his father. He should not be permitted to sleep by day – for this conduces to laziness – and should always be allowed to sleep at night – but not on a soft bed – which would prevent his ‘members’ from growing tough. His body should not be allowed to grow fat – for this would make it hard for him to renounce self‑indulgence – instead he should be habituated to tough bedding, clothing and food.

*( This does not mean you put your Child purposely through hardship – but to make them realize , nothing comes easy and we need to learn -adjust to harsh condtions for own benefit in the future – a Little bit of Mortification does NOT Hurt the Soul)*

He should also be prevented from doing anything secretly – for he will conceal things only when he believes them to be ugly – and if he is left to continue these practices he will grow used to doing ugly (Prohibited) things. He should acquire the habit of walking -moving about and taking exercise for part of the day so that he is not governed by idleness – and should be taught not to uncover his limbs nor walk fast and not to dangle his arms but to keep them close to his trunk.

He must be forbidden to boast to his fellows about any of his parent’s possessions -social standing whether these be money or property – or about anything he eats or wears – or about his tablet and pencase – and Should become used to being modest – generous and mild in his speech to all with whom he associates.

He should be prevented from accepting anything from other boys if he is from a wealthy and powerful family – and be taught that it is honorable to give – and baser and blameworthy to take – Meanwhile, if his parents are poor he should be taught that greed and taking from others is a disgraceful and humiliating practice fit only for dogs – which wag their tails hoping for a morsel.

Children should always be made to Deem the love of gold and silver as an unsightly thing – and should be warned in this regard even more vigorously than they are warned about snakes and scorpions – for the vice which consists in such a love is more dangerous to them (and to adults also) than poison.

A Child should be put in the practice of NOT spitting – yawning or wiping his nose in the presence of others – and taught not to turn his back to anyone when conversing – or to cross his legs – or lean his chin and support his head on his hand- for these practices indicate the presence of laziness.

He should be taught how to sit – and Forbidden to Speak Excessively – it being explained to him that this is a sign of impudence and the custom of children from low families.

Making oaths of any sort – whether true or false, should be Forbidden him – so that he never acquires this habit as a child – He should be put in the habit of never speaking before anyone else – and of speaking only in response to questions and in proportion to them – and of listening properly whenever an older person is speaking – and rising (when he , an Elder enters) – and making a place for him and sitting facing him.

He should be Forbidden to Speak Loosely – or to curse or insult anyone – or to mingle with those who do such things – for these habits will inevitably be acquired should he fall in with bad company – the preservation from which is the Very Root and Foundation of the Education of Children.

If his teacher strikes him he should not cry out and sob – or seek anyone’s intercession – but should rather bear his punishment – and be told that to do so is a mark of courage and manhood.*(Provided the teacher concerned does NOT cause injury to the Child, as in some cases)*

After school, he should be allowed to play in a fashion which gives him some rest after his hard work in class, but should not be allowed to grow exhausted -To prevent a child from playing – and to fatigue him with constant lessons will cause his heart to die and harm his intelligence- and make life so hateful to him that he will cast around for some means of escape.

He should be taught to obey his parents and his teachers – and all people who are older than himself whether relatives or not – and to look upon them with respect and admiration and not to play in their presence. As he reaches the age of discretion he should not be excused the Ritual Ablutions and the Prayer – and should be told to Fast for a few days during Ramadan -and should be prevented from wearing gold- silk or embroidered clothes.

He should be taught about the limits laid down by the Law- and put in fear of theft and unlawful gain- and also of lying -treachery- deceit- and all the other traits that tend to predominate among children – If he is brought up in this way – then as he approaches adulthood he will come to understand the reasons which underlay these things – and will be told that food is a means of maintaining health – and that its sole purpose is to enable man to gain strength for the worship of ALLAH (Great and Glorious is HE) and that this world is without reality- since it will not endure – and that death must bring its pleasures to an end – and that it is a place through which we pass but in which we cannot abide -unlike the AfterLife – in which we must abide and through which we cannot pass – for death awaits us at every moment – and that therefore the intelligent and insightful man will lay up provisions in this world for his journey into the next so as to gain a high degree in the sight of ALLAH and Abundant Bliss in the Gardens of Heaven.

If his upbringing was sound- then when he attains to maturity these ideas will have a powerful and wholesome effect which will leave an impression on his heart like an inscription on stone – had it been otherwise – so that the child had grown accustomed to play – boastfulness – rudeness and insolence – and greed for food – clothes and finery – his heart will shrink from accepting truth in the manner of a field whose harvest withers because of its dry soil.

It is the beginning which should be supervised carefully- for a child is a creature the essence of which is receptive to both good and evil – it is only its parents which cause it to be disposed to one or the other.

As the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: “Every child is born with the sound natural disposition (Fitra) -it is only his parents who make of him a Jew -a Christian or a Zoroastrian.”

About Sahl ibn ‘Abd Allah al‑Tustari – On his Upbringing:

Sahl ibn ‘Abd Allah al‑Tustari said: “When I was (only) three years old -I used to say the midnight prayer – having watched my maternal uncle Muhammad ibn Sawwar doing this. One day he said to me – “Do you not remember ALLAH your Creator?” – and I asked: “How should I remember HIM?’” – My Uncle says -“Say in your heart when you put on your bed‑clothes- three times and without moving you tongue- ‘ALLAH is with me – ALLAH beholds me -ALLAH watches over me.”

This I did for several nights, and told him what I had done- Then he instructed me to say the same words seven times each night- which I did – and then eleven times – upon which I felt a sweetness growing in my heart – When a year had passed – my uncle said to me: “Keep doing what I have told you until you enter your grave – for it will help you in this world and the next.” – I continued to do it for several years- finding a sweetness within myself until my Uncle said: “Sahl! If ALLAH is with somebody – and beholds him and watches over him – can he then disobey HIM? You should never do so.”

“Now, it was a habit of mine to keep my own company, and when they sent me to school I said – “I am afraid that my concentration will be lost – But they made it a condition upon the school master that I should be with him and learn for a certain period each day – and would then come back home – And so i went to school, where I memorized the Quran by the time I was six or seven years old – It was my practice to fast every day – my only nourishment for twelve years being from barley‑bread.

When I was thirteen I came across a question (which I could not answer) and asked my family to send me to Basra to search for the answer to it there – When I arrived -I asked the scholars of the city regarding it – but not one of them was able to provide me with a satisfactory response. -I journeyed therefore to Abbadan, where I met a man named Abu Habib Hamza ibn Abi Abd Allah al‑Abbadani – who was able to answer my question.

I then stayed with him for a while, benefiting from his discourse and taking on some of his good manners – and then went back to Tustar – Now I restricted myself in the matter of food to buying for one dirham a measure of barley – which I would cause to be ground and baked- and of which I would eat one ounce (Uqiya) before dawn -without any salt or other food – so that one dirham sufficed me for a whole year.

Then I resolved to fast for three days at a stretch- and then break my fast- and then for five days- and then seven- and at last twenty‑five days.This I did for twenty years – Then I went out- and wandered in the earth for several more years and then returned to Tustar-where I prayed all night for as long as ALLAH willed.”

Ahmad remarked: “I never saw him eat salt until he went to meet his Lord.”

Wa ‘AlaikumAsalam

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