Let us first read the Fiqh book of Shia’s i-e Nahjul Balagha
Nahjul Balagha Part 3 page 745 Irshad 322
“Hazrat Ali(R.A) aik jaga sy guzery to kuch orten Maqtooleen per Giryah ker rahy then itny men os qabeely ky sardar ap ky khidmat men hazer hoye to Hazrat Ali R.A os per naraz hoye or kaha ky kiya tomhara bas in orton per nahy chalta ky inhen giryah kerny sy maana ker sako”
Short and Rough Translation:
Hazrat Ali (rd) going from one place when he saw some women doing (Matam)(moaning crying hurting ownself), at certain moment the leader of that tribe came in. Hazrat Ali(rd) was very upset with him and asked him that you even do not control these women (ie, to stop them from doing this).
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Farogh-e-Kafi is like Sahih Muslim of the Shias let us read what it say about it.
Farogh-e-kafi vol.1 Kitab-ul-Janaiz Ch:78 hadees:7 page:328
” Hazrat Muhammed(s.a.w) ky farzand Tahir ka jab inteqal hoa to App(s.a.w) ny bibi Khadeja ko Rony sy manna kiya or farmayah kiya tum Is per Razi nahy ky osy Janat ky darwazy per khara pao”
“When Hazrat Muhammad (sall allhu alehiwasalam)’s son ‘Tahir’ died, You stopped Hazrat Khadija from moaning and crying (for the child) and said “dont you want to see him standing on the door of Paradise?“.
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Book name Hayat-ul-Quloob vol.2 page-994 Ch:62
Translation in short: Prophet alehisalam said about four things will be there in my ummah and one among them is moaning and crying which is prohibited.
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khisaal-as-sadooq , pg:109 , bab:4 , sheikh-as-sadooq
“Noha geeri ki majlis men shirkat walon ko Allah mon ke bal jahanum men phenke ga”.
“Allah will throw those people to hellfire who will join Majlis’es”.
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More Evidence: again
Hayat-ul-quloob , jild:2 , bab:63 , pg:1008
“Huzoor(s.a.w) ne Hazrat Fatima (r.a) se farmaya ke mere jane ke bad tum na mujh per gham kerna , na apne chehre ko zakhmi kerna , na apne balon ko pareshaan kerna , na noha kerna aur na noha kerne walon ko bulana.”
Short Translation: Prophet alehisalam said to Fatima (rd) that after my demise do not cry and do not harm your face, …. (ie do not moan neither hurt yourself nor cry).”
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Now Presenting Some More and utmost Authentic Scans and Rulings of Shia’s own Ayatullah
On the Prohibition of beating and doing torture (matam)
When Imam Hussain (Rd) was on the battle of Karbala, before martyr he gave his will to Syada Zeenat (rd) by saying “O my beloved sister! i swear you. if i am martyred, d’nt do Matam, neither hurt your face (slapping) nor snatch your face with nails”. (i-e Dont do Matam)
Ref : Book Al-Irshad Vol 2